Help Your Kids Put Off and Put On

All kids are the same, and yet so different.  I have three little ones. Natalie is 5, Noah is 3, and Jude is 11 months.  They each have their own personalities and interests, but they are all my favorite little sinners.

We understand the Bible tells us we need to "train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it", but how do we do that?  Ephesians 4:25 thru 32 gives us the practical solution we are searching for. The Put Off and Put On principle.

 Paul outlines several sins and then explains how to overcome them. For example, stop stealing, start working, and then give.  Stop being angry, and start loving. Stop lying, tell the truth, and then become transparent.  We often fall short when correcting our children. We tell them to stop complaining.  Then what.  Just like if I tell you, don't think about an elephant wearing pink polk-a-dot shorts, sipping lemonade on the beach. What are you going to do?  Exactly. In order to stop thinking or doing something you must replace it with something else.  If you want your child to stop complaining, ask your child to do the opposite = be thankful.  When he is crying because his sibling is playing with a toy he is now suddenly interested in, ask him to tell you five things he is thankful for.  He will most likely need your help because he is used to complaining, but make sure you follow thru with what you've asked.

I created these flash cards about two years ago to help the kids remember verses to go with each offense.  Red means stop. Green means go.  These are my original flash cards that I made as a reminder for me, and a learning tool for the kids.  If you are proactively teaching, you will be amazed what they remember when a similar situation occurs.  BTW: We can learn this way, too :)

 

      Put OFF Selfishness

Put ON Generosity

Update: We now have a completed, downloadable study on putting off tattling and putting on peacemaking. Check it our in our Store! ~Julia

Disney on a Dime (Part 2)

On the Contemporary Resort's Balcony

Everything Disney that You Can Do... for FREE!

Say you're on a pretty tight budget, maybe you've driven down to Florida and are staying with family, maybe you've flown down but don't have a lot of cash left to splurge. There is plenty you can do to give your kids a taste of Disney magic while spending practically nothing! In this post, I'll cover some free Disney options, finding Disney tickets, visiting the parks with small children and a summarized description of the parks. Happy planning!! 

The Disney Monorail

Polynesian Resort

• Downtown Disney
• Free parking
• Lots of things to see and take in. Hands-on lego displays and a huge lego store. A huge Disney store, complete with princess outfits and the princess hair and make-up boutique (which is NOT free - but they will wave their magic wand and sprinkle pixy dust on your head for free if you ask!!). 
• Lots of places to eat including the Rain Forest Cafe and other fun places - for a price...
• Small train and carousal that kids can ride for a fee.  
• Free nightly entertainment and/or "dance party" for kids at the stage by the water.
• Boat rides from one side to the other for free when running.
• 2 Splash pads - take a change of clothes or a bathing suite and enjoy the water fun for free!

Train - Downtown Disney

• The Monorail
• Monorail stations can be found at many places, including Epcot, The Grand Floridian Resort, Polynesian Resort, and Contemporary Resort. Google Disney monorail routes for diagrams and maps. Riding the monorail is free, parking outside of a monorail station should be free in most cases - most likely at a resort parking lot.
• Ride the monorail around - because it's fun! Take in all the free scenery out the window which includes glimpses of Epcot, the Magic Kingdom (Cinderella's castle, Space Mountain, etc) and several resorts.

Splash Pad - Downtown Disney

• Resorts
• The Polynesian
• Walk through the front entrance into a tropical paradise and even if you are not staying as a guest, you will be greeted with an "aloha" and a free flowered lei necklace!
• The Polynesian also offers prime viewing of the nightly fireworks over Cinderella's castle. Sit for free on their sandy beach, and take in the fireworks, complete with the same musical program that can be heard live at the Magic Kingdom.

Downtown Disney

• The Contemporary
• Offers a great view of the castle from their balcony on the floor directly bellow the monorail station.    

Fireworks from the Polynesian

• The Grand Floridian
• A beautiful hotel to stop in at. Not much to do for free, but if you're willing to put out money to eat, it's a very nice place to have breakfast, lunch or dinner.

• The Animal Kingdom Lodge
• A highly recommended stop! If you're staying at a value resort, this is a fun place to visit for a change of pace (bring your refillable cup with you). Eat at their "quick-service" dinning room, the "Mara." The African Stew is amazing! 
• Take it all in, go for a walk around, it's huge! Straight out back from the main entrance is an entire African savannah, complete with viewing areas. You're guaranteed to catch Giraffes, Zebra, maybe an elephant and all kinds of birds and flamingo!
• The Animal Kingdom Lodge also has a very nice play structure and on certain nights, they have a camp fire going where you can roast s'mores.     

Disney Tickets  

Start the process of procuring Disney tickets, way in advance. I have to say, the secret for us is no secret - it's called prayer! God always seems to provide for us above and beyond what we need, and He amazes us time and time again with the ways He provides funding for our trips. Now, with that said, there are still things you can start doing. Throw out a message to all your friends on facebook way in advance. Chances are, you know someone who lives in Florida or works at Disney. If not that, you know someone who knows someone who knows someone who's related to someone who works there! One year, my grandma "just happened" to get in touch with a distant relative (twice removed or something like that), that mentioned her adopted daughter was working at Disney and could probably get us in for free. Disney employees generally get a certain number of free passes each month that they are free to use as they please. This distant relative that we had never met, got us VIP parking in the "Disney Cast and Crew" parking lot, 1 day park hopper tickets for 4 of us and free wheelchair rental for my grandma.

It can't hurt to throw it out there that you are going, and see if anything comes through! There is not a whole lot of sense in buying up tickets in advance anyways, so just wait to see how God may provide. Buying tickets on ebay or craigslist is a risky move. There may be no way of telling if the tickets are legit or active. Once used or activated, Disney now links your fingerprint to a ticket so it cannot be passed on to another person! Tickets also expire after a while unless the "no expiration" feature was paid for. Keep a watch out for Disney promotions on their official site http://disneyparks.disney.go.com/ one year, they ran a promotion that if you came on the day of your birthday, it was free! I went with my daughter and parents that year and my mom got in free (she also got a button that said "it's my birthday" and every Disney crew member greeted her throughout the day with a birthday hello). One year, Disney ran a volunteering promotion. My husband and I signed up on their official site to volunteer at a food bank in our area, for a few hours. We were sent free tickets and when we got there we had buttons that said "i volunteered!" These types of promotions are generally announced at the beginning of the year, and do fill up fast. For example, the volunteering promotion was for the first million people I think, and we got in right at the end as it filled up by late February!

We've never used them, but I've been told Undercover Tourist is an official spot for discount tickets. Disney usually offers pretty good military incentives and discounts which can be found on their official site. Mouse Savers is a good place to go as well, for info, tips and advise on discount tickets. AAA may be able to get you a discount on a multi-day pass. Florida residents can only get discount tickets for themselves that are non-transferable. The only exception to this is that Grandma and Grandpa may be able to get away with buying Florida resident priced tickets for their grandkids who have no official ID - "But you didn't hear that from me!" said one very nervous Disney employee I spoke with.

My Rank and Comparison of the Parks 

(in a Nut Shell)

1. The Magic Kingdom: Classic Disney! You don't really feel like you've been to Disney World till you've been there. Princesses, magic, warm fuzzies, happy rides based on Disney animated movies, Pirates of the Carribian, etc. They have an awesome and moving fireworks display over Cinderella's castle each night - brought to you by Tinker Bell. There are rides for every age - including the most little kid-friendly rids as well as a few roller coasters and thrilling rides for older kids
2. Hollywood Studios: We went here on our most recent trip. A ton to see and do! More than we remembered there being, actually. Not so much princess themed, like the magic kingdom, more Pixar, Disney Junior and then Star Wars, Muppets, etc. A good variety. It's like they've added in the Disney Junior specific stuff to appeal to younger kids, because in the past their big draw has been the Star Wars ride and stunt shows like the Indiana Jones Stunt Spectacular. There are more show type attractions here than rides. We found this to be a welcomed change from the Magic Kingdom, which is the only park we had visited for the past few years. There was something for everyone, including plenty that our 5 year old, 3 year old AND 1 year old all enjoyed! 
3. Epcot: We always disliked going here as kids, but my parents loved it! We always referred to Epcot as the boring, educational side of Disney. They've added more kid friendly stuff in recent years, but a lot of it is more educational, cultural, sea life/science related. The big draw is World Showcase, where you really do feel like you're taking in a quick tour around the world and getting a fun sampling of the best places to stop, shop and eat from all different cultures. 
4. Animal Kingdom: I've actually never been here (aside from a stop at the Animal Kingdom Lodge). I have heard from numerous people that it is pretty small in comparison with the other parks, but really nice. We can never get over the fact that based on how small it is in comparison with the other parks, it is still the same price! You could totally pass on going and just visit the Animal Kingdom Lodge for free - and still see a bunch of animals.

Personally, if I were doing 2 days I would do a day at the Magic Kingdom and a day at Hollywood Studios. Also, I'd pass on any of the fancy "park hopper" options. There is plenty to see at each park and it just kills tons of time traveling from park to park. The only time I could see this being worth it, was if you were purchasing a multi-day pass, and the cost of adding a park hopper option was not considerable - you could feasibly stay as late as possible at say, the Magic Kingdom, then hop over to Epcot, which is usually open later, to catch their fireworks as well! This is under the assumption you are not way too tired out after being at the Magic Kingdom all day.

Disney really makes it worth your while if you are going for multiple days. The price jump from each additional day once you've already bought a 3 day base ticket becomes smaller and smaller. My only note of caution with this is, if going with small children, any more than 1 day at a time will be very tiring! I remember doing multiple days as an older kid myself, but we have only ever done 1 day at a time with our young kids. To get your money's worth by staying a full day at any of the parks, is one looong day of excitement! Young children will no doubt become cranky and over-stimulated. I think kids age 7 and up would probably do fine for multiple days. I think my siblings and I were close to our teen years when we enjoyed going for multiple days in a row without tiring. But the trick with young kids is not to overstay the fun. If doing more than one day, give yourself a day in between to rest!

Tips for Going with Young Children 

Some people say not to do it - they say it's not worth your time - they say to wait until your kids are older when they'll remember it... But it is possible, and enjoyable to go with young kids! 

First off, my kids do remember going (in detail!) and they are very young. It's also most enjoyable when they are young enough, uninhibited, and free to allow their excitement out in loud and adorable ways! Kids are also free up till the age of 3 (and they don't ask for proof of age, birth certificate, etc). So...

• Go rested, prepared and relaxed! You do need to have a plan, if there are specific rides you definitely want to hit. Otherwise, the day will get away from you and you may end up missing a lot. However, there is hardly time to get EVERYTHING in by the end of the day - so try not to stress about doing it all. Make your own Customized Map on Disney's site to plan the spots you really want to hit.

• 2 years ago we went with an infant, a 2 year old and a 4 year old. That year we took an infant carrier and an umbrella stroller (so the infant could give mommy a break by sitting in the stroller while the 2 year old walked a bit). This past time we just took a stroller for the now 1 year old and the 3 year old walked the whole time. Whatever you do, know that your stroller will have to be left on long extended times throughout the day while you are away on rides. In other words, don't take a stroller you will be heartbroken over losing.

• Almost all rides at the Magic Kingdom can be enjoyed while holding an infant in your lap. We went with my grandma the year my oldest child was born. She was 3 months old and we had the silly fantasy of getting her picture taken with Mickey or something adorable like that. We were really just excited to have a kid to use as an excuse to go to Disney World (never mind she was only 3 months old)! We went on every ride there and she did fine. We took a stroller for her and when it was time for her to nap or nurse, I would fined a quiet corner somewhere and sit with her a while - which was a nice little time out during a long day.

• Know your kids. There are few rides and experiences that have frightened our kids over the years, but that is their nature. If your kids are easily startled or frightened, there are definitely rides you may want to stay away from. The map you receive for each park is pretty good about pointing out these intense rides and areas.

• If going on the off season, you will definitely want to dress in layers or pack a sweatshirt for at night, it can get rather chilly once the son goes down.

• We have splurged a few times by making reservations at a "character dining" restaurant in the park. We ate our peanut butter and jelly sandwiches the rest of the day, but for one meal, strategically timed at mid afternoon, we were able to sit in a nice air conditioned room, have good food and entertainment for the kids when they were just starting to get really tired and cranky. It worked really well the year I was pregnant and the 2 kids were pretty young. It was a welcomed break and bonus - it happened to rain outside while we stayed dry inside. You HAVE to have reservations for these types of restaurants, so plan ahead. You also have to cancel within 24 hours or you'll be charged a good amount of money. 

• Disney does have very nice Baby Care Centers available at each park - to change an infant, sit to nurse, warm a bottle, etc.

• Check out the Mom's Advice Panel for a great source of Q and A's.

• Take tons of pictures! They are so cute at this age.

Money Saving Tips for the Parks

• Pack your lunch and snacks! I remember hating it as a kid - why did my mom always have to pack those stinkin peanut butter and jelly sandwiches?? Obviously I understand it now, and wow does it make a difference. You're already (most likely) paying an arm and a leg to get into the park, why not stop the spending there? If you've got a stroller, you have plenty of space to store stuff. Otherwise, carry a back pack or plan on renting a locker. Pack light, but go prepared.

• Why not let your daughter dress like a princess or your little boy like a pirate? They wont be the minority. Many little girls will arrive each day dressed in their best princess attire. Many will have paid out big bucks to get a princess make-over. You don't have to, just plan ahead. Bring your own dress, crown and accessories. She will be referred to all day long as "princess" by Disney staff and she will love it!  

•  Take the "photo pass" cards when they offer them to you. These are free and you are under no obligation to purchase anything. However, if by chance you were to lose you camera or something crazy like that, you may be really glad you did have them take your picture a few times and put it on a card. Not only that, but they will gladly take your camera and snap a "professional" shot with it as well, but for free! So if you don't know who else to trust handing your camera to, know that they will gladly do it.

Where to Start

• There is so much info available right on Disney's official site. Info on special rates, promotions, events, when to go, what to do, what to see. Sign up to receive a free Vacation Planing DVD - Your kids will love watching it and planing along with you!

Happy Planing! 

Be sure to check out my first installment of this post: 
Disney on a Dime (Part 1)

I welcome comments and any additional questions you may have!!

Progress Reports

There are moms that constantly brag about their kid's accomplishments, to the point of annoyance. Then, there are moms that are so focused on what their kids are NOT accomplishing that it's disturbing. Secretly, many of the moms that are bragging about accomplishments are still inwardly comparing their kids to everyone else, hoping to stay ahead of the game. Many mom's suffer anxiety over what their kids aren't doing, what milestones they have not reached and if anyone else has noticed. We live in a society where the comparison game will drive you insane! We're given check lists of what our kids should be doing and when. The problem is, no kid is the same. God has created us all uniquely and individually. Your kid may not fit the mold or even come close to resembling the mold!

Early intervention is extremely helpful for some children, yes. But the system is flawed, because it assumes that all children develop at the same pace. Use milestone check lists as a very loose guideline, but don't get too freaked out if your child falls behind in any one area. My girls were slower verbal developers, but they were both running and jumping by 10 months. My 5 year old LOVES art, crafts, activity, reading, words, phonics, etc. (right brained, ya think?) but is struggling with "getting" anything numbers and math oriented. I am the same way! One of the best parts about homeschooling is that I can keep her moving ahead in the areas she is excelling, while taking extra time to focus on the things she is not grasping yet. We work at her pace, not a nation-wide, general pace set by the average student. 

I am one of those moms that got freaked out early-on, when I saw other kids progressing faster than my daughter. Isn't it just crazy that at 6 months, we're already comparing our kids and taking note of the things that they're doing in comparison with everyone else? Wait a second, it starts earlier than that! How about within the first week of life? We've been programed to search for something that will give us bragging rights, something that will immediately label our child as "above average." Whether it be, how early they sit up, how early they say their first word, how early they start reading, at what age they master algebra or graduate high school. It's a never-ending comparison game! Have you lost your mind yet? 

Today, I sat down to write up a progress report for my 5 year old. Initially, I was just curious to compile a list of the academic milestones she has reached and see how it measures up with the national average. I was again reminded of how far she has come. I am so quick to get down about the areas she is struggling in, but God really reminded me how blessed I am by all the things she CAN do! I ended up making lists for all 3 kids, writing down as many positive things that I could think of. I would recommend for anyone that is getting freaked out over what their kids AREN'T doing, to make a list of all the things they CAN do! Pray for your child and thank God for blessing you with their life. Your child may have been diagnosed with a learning disability or have mental and physical limitations - thank God for their accomplishments and talents! These may include things like: being kind, sensitive, having a joyful personality, affectionate, etc. Assessment has it's place, but remember that each child is unique, "fearfully and wonderfully made!"

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. -Psalm 139:13-16

Gloomy Day Fun

This stuff looks like it would be amazing! However, I can't seem to find the source of it. Anyone know where to buy this stuff? I had originally seen the idea to use plain old masking tape on the floor to create "roads" like in this picture from Pinterest:

I apologize for not knowing the original source of this picture.

All I had on hand was an almost used up role of wide masking tape, but let me tell ya, you'd think this was the most amazing thing we've ever done in our home! All three of my kids were anxiously waiting for it to be done, my daughter was excitedly chanting, "This is going to be AMAZING!" I'll keep you posted on how many hours of entertainment this ended up providing. I do think blue painters tape would be even more fun, because it's colorful and would come off easier. But this worked!

Adventures with Little Ones

Yes, You Can...

Take 2 toddlers and an infant to a music festival, in the rain, and still have fun!

Ok, so "fun" may be a strong word, but with a relaxed attitude, sense of adventure and a little preparation, you can definitely go on living life without missing a beat! The key was: an enclosed stroller, ponchos, umbrella, flip flops, sweatshirts, snacks, baby carrier, and balloons!