Friday, October 12, 2012

Staying Sane While Homeschooling

We are 5 weeks into our school year. 
Here are the 5 things I've learned I need, to keep my sanity:

  1. I need to make a weekly schedule, then take a chill pill and relax when things don't go exactly as planned. I like feeling organized, I like routines and goals. I need goals, otherwise I tend to get lazy. But we homeschool, and one of the perks to homeschooling is that you don't have to follow a schedule! My goal every day is to hit the gym by 7:30am, return home showered, dressed (looking fabulous) and ready to go (I know, right?).  I like when my husband has got the kids up, dressed and fed, so that when I return we are ready to get going on school by 9:00. It doesn't usually go that smoothly, but it's our goal. I've learned not to beat myself up when it doesn't happen quite like that (or at all like that).
  2. We all need breaks. For the kids: If you're half way through a math lesson and your child has mentally checked out and seems completely unresponsive after numerous attempts, have them get up and take 5! Do a lap around the house, sit on the couch and rest, read a book, or eat a snack. Then, get back to work. For me: I need down time at least once a day to keep my sanity, regardless of how productive or unproductive the day has been. I strictly enforce nap time/quiet times here at our house. While my one year old sleeps, the four year old naps or plays quietly in his room and the five year old sits on a bed with books or at a desk to color. Since my 1 year old is still taking a good 2 hour nap mid day, the rule for my other 2 kids is to stay quietly in their rooms until she wakes up.
  3. I kinda need a clean house. I find that my sanity is directly correlated with how clean my house is. Everyone in the family contributes to a general clean-up of everything before going to bed at night. We usually start the day off pretty tidy, but by noon, things can look like a disaster zone! After lunch, we do a round-up of all the toys, my 5 year old cleans the table off and my 4 year old vacuums up crumbs with the dust buster. I'm no clean freak, I'm all about letting the kids be kids and have fun with their toys, but a little mid-day organization in the midst of chaos can be very therapeutic!
  4. I need unconditional support from my husband. Maybe it's all in my head, maybe it's reality, but I feel a lot of pressure as a homeschooler. I know there are people watching what we're doing; fellow bloggers, blog readers, friends and family members. I know there are some people watching out of general curiosity, and others that remain very skeptical. I know that on top of our parenting responsibilities, taking on the sole educational instruction of our children is no small task. Because of this, I have my moments of emotional breakdown, and I need to know my husband is behind me 100%. 
  5. I need to get out of the house and have alone time. For this reason, starting my day at the gym really does help. At the end of the day, I can at least say that I got out of the house at one point! Don't get me wrong, I love my kids. I love having them at home and I love being around them all day. But I know my limits, and so does my husband. He is pretty good about picking up on my vibe that says "Help! Get me outta here!" Sometimes all I need is a change in scenery :)
*For further encouragement to chill out, read this cool little post: Dear Moms, Jesus Wants You to Chill Out For the record, I read that right after publishing this post and found it very fitting to include here :)

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3 comments:

  1. I so appreciate this! This is my first year homeschooling (my oldest is a kindergartener), and I'm still trying to find my groove. I LOVE it, but its making me kinda crazy, too. The house is a big one for me-I feel sooo stressed inside and just am kind of a mess if the house is a disaster, but infect badly for that, so it made me feel better to see you're like that, too. I'm actually a really laid-back momma, so it's surprised me at how neat I need the house, but I do-at least the kitchen! If the kitchens a wreck so am I! Lol. Anyway, enjoying your blog and will be a reader! :)

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    1. Thanks so much, Anna, for reading and sharing your thoughts! I just hopped over to your blog and checked it out as well. Loooove the first few things I read. Keep up the great work. You have a great story and testimony to continue sharing - it was very inspiring to read just the little bit that I did. We will have to stay in touch :)

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  2. What a great post. I will pray that you can keep this important statement:
    "relax when things don't go exactly as planned". That is something to learn and to do it at your age - powerful.
    May you continue in your homeschooling with all the fruit of the Spirit.
    Blessings
    Janis

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